The Harms of Coddling Your Children
Parents these days are having difficulties in finding that balance between showing affection, and flat out spoiling their kids. Many parents may feel as if they are merely loving their children, but these actions will harm the coddled children into believing that they have a false sense of entitlement in the world as an adult. They will grow to be self-centered, which will have negative effects on their relationships with others, and their abilities to emphasize with others. These issues all begin when a parent does not enforce any self-control onto their children as they develop
When a parent coddles their children, the child’s emotional health is at risk. If a parent does not teach their child how to be an independent individual, and attempts to shield them from disappointment and failure from time to time, then the child will be afraid of what they can and cannot accomplish. They will lack the aggression to set and tackle their goals in life, because they lack the confidence within themselves to achieve them. If you don’t demand respect from your children then they will figure out just how far they can push their parents and take advantage. Coddled children also have issues developing relationships with other people because they lack empathy and see their needs as more important than others’.
Being coddled as a child can develop into dangerous attitudes and habits as an adult. When everything is handed to a child on a silver platter, they feel entitled as an adult to success without hard work or any failures along the way. This attitude will only lead them to disappointment and confusion in life, and it will also make them overly dependent on their parents when faced with obstacles. Former coddled children lack a sense of consequence as adults, because they were brought up to believe as if they could get away with anything without any retaliation. These children lack respect towards their superiors such as parents, teachers, bosses, etc. When children are younger, it is easy for their parents to overindulge them because they believe that by spoiling them they are showing love and affection. But this only creates bad habits that will get the child into trouble as an adult.
It is very important for a parent to find a balance between affection and discipline. It is okay to show your child love and affection, but it is important to know the right time to be disciplinary and to show your children a strong set of moral values to live by as well. This will guide children onto the right path; the path of respect, compassion, and independence. These valuable traits are only acquired through loving, yet firm parents.